lessons from my greatest ah gong

My ah gong died before the sun came up Friday morning, the sky was full of stars.
He was admitted to the hospital two months ago because he had suffered a brain aneurysm then he entered rehab. He was doing okay.
I received a call from my father on Tuesday, letting me know the doctor expected my ah gong to pass on next few days because of lung infection, his 70% of lung was not working anymore. Shocked. I thought he will be okay. My ah gong already talked with his doctors that no more farther treatments. He decided when to go.
I ran into travel agency and bought earliest air ticket to Japan. I scared just really really scared. I don’t really remember what I’ve done that day. I almost wanna cry everywhere but I had to settle many things before leaving KL so I guess I ran a lots that day.
Wednesday the plane landed Narita airport in the morning. My father was there and he took me to the hospital, I saw my mom and my ah gong on the bed with oxygen mask on his face. He was awake and I said hi and he could able to say hi back to me. He called my name and asked me why I’m here.
Two days we were together. Last day he told me many stories of his life and told me how happy he was, how great his life was. I told him I’m proud to be his grand daughter, I really do.
Around noon time, my father brought me a lunch. And my ah gong saw it, he asked us “Oh lunch time already? I would like to have chow fun, can we?” he didn’t have solid food for few weeks but since he wants to eat it, my father rushed to restaurant and bought a seafood chow fun for my ah gong. I opened the pack slowly and took little sum on the spoon and I fed him. Then my ah gong says “Can I have more?” I was happy, I fed him slowly little by little. He ate it quite a lot and had some tea as well.
But he went.
We had an awful Friday morning ever, everything down with sadness. But my father was strong he sayang my mom and he started what we have to settle. I’m very lucky to have such a wonderful dad. He’s been our rock and my best father. I believe love like ours is very rare and I feel extremely blessed.
Today everything is back to normal little by little. Sadness is still here with me and I already miss everyones huggies. But I’m trying to think that I’m so lucky to have had such a wonderful, always caring and loving ah gong in my life for 23 years.
I certainly learned the value of people and the world from ah gong.
Ah gong, you will be dearly missed but your memories will forever live in our hearts.
Photos of the day:
I found old photos in ah gong’s room. He kept nicely in the photo albums.

I guess it was my grandparent’s first trip to KL back in 88.
Whenever I go out with my ah gong, he always buys me a vanilla ice cream.
There was once in Singapore, he bought me a roti ice cream and I was greedy I ate his one also… I still remember the way he laugh at me on the street.
He loves taking photos and videos. I’ve got many collections of my videos since baby time all taken by my ah gong. I saw it and touched, my ah gong keep calling me on videos and chasing me everywhere. I’m very happy he made it.
And this one, incredible one. He kept all letters and cards I wrote to him. Since small till the latest and it was very well organized. His kindness and love of other people was inspirational. And one day I wanna be like you.





こんばんは。
最初の家族写真を見た時に、記事を読まなくてもすぐみほちゃんだって分かったよ!面影が少しあるなって思った(^_^)
それと、幼い頃からマレーシアに縁があったんだね〜。
おじいさまの件、残念だったけど、きっとこれからもずっと見守っていてくれると思うよ。子どもの頃の手紙まで丁寧に取っておくなんて、昔からすごく大切に思われていたんだなぁって感じました。
おじいさまのご冥福をお祈りしてます。
また別の機会に日本に来る時があったら是非知らせてね♪
会えるなら適当に都合を付けるから(^_-)-☆
高校の時から随分会ってないから何だかホームステイした時が懐かしいよ。
yakko
August 6, 2009 at 6:44 pm